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Repost:  I Wish You No Luck At All

Good morning
Some one once told me I must have bad karma for posting this.  I totally disagree. I am not trying to down anyone - I always wish quitters best wishes - but I can honestly say LUCK had NOTHING to do with my quit.  I worked damned hard to get where I am today - I was not lucky.  
This has always been my take on the post - it is not meant to offend.

KTQ
Cara
D6970
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Hang on a tick, that's not a nice thing to say, is it?

I absolutely mean it. I wish you no luck, and all the success in the world.

It isn't luck, but preparation and hard work that will see you through this. The difference between 10 years quit is often a matter of inches. It is in your weakest moment that you will discover the depths of your strength.

Luck runs out. Luck dries up. If you rely on luck, sooner or later you will lose.

A successful quit doesn't need luck. It is successful by design. Plans and resolve. A predetermined willingness to go as far as it takes to keep from lighting up. Gritted teeth, whole tubs of ice cream, a handful of cussed-out fast-food kids, and sometimes just plain cursing the universe. Don't worry - the universe can take it.

Luck takes credit for your actions, and makes you doubt your own hand in your outcomes.

"I sure was lucky that I didn't smoke the other night at my sister's house" No you weren't. You navigated a difficult situation by your own skill, resolve, and hard work. Your dedication to your quit was sufficient to pull you through.

Luck steals your accountability.

"I had a good quit going, but a string of bad luck put me in the worst possible situation" No it didn't. 9 times out of 10, you put you in bad situations. Even that 10th time out of 10, some unavoidable perfect storm of triggers - it wasn't luck that put a cigarette in your mouth. It wasn't luck that lit the end and pulled in that smoke. Hate to break it to you, but it wasn't alcohol that made you smoke either. YOU put the cigarette in your mouth, YOU lit the end, YOU sucked in that smoke. It is only by your own will that you smoke. Luck had nothing to do with it.

Plan to succeed. Learn from your past mistakes and find ways to avoid making them again - better still, learn from everyone else's past mistakes and learn from those. Be selfish with your quit. Protect your quit. Know your limits. In time you will reclaim your life, but for the first 3 or 4 months especially, you should do whatever it takes to be smoke free. Miss a birthday, miss a wedding - if you succeed in quitting, you'll make up for it by being around for more of them.

Be ruthless in your quit. Don't let anything stand between you and your goal of being smoke free. Anyone who's not on board and supportive of your quit can bugger off for a while. Stay smoke free by any means necessary.

Be quick to apologize. We tend to be quick to anger, even when it is irrational and uncalled for. Be quick to apologize, as well. It'll buy you some patience from your loved ones if you can admit when you've wronged them. You would do well to remember this little tidbit here in the QuitStop. We are dealing with a whole roomful of suffering, scared, injured people. When someone lashes out at you here, remember that it is not personal. You are words on a screen to this person - an abstraction. Often an abstraction that is telling them things their addiction doesn't want to hear.

Repost: I Wish You No Luck At All

Good morning
Some one once told me I must have bad karma for posting this. I totally disagree. I am not trying to down anyone - I always wish quitters best wishes - but I can honestly say LUCK had NOTHING to do with my quit. I worked damned hard to get where I am today - I was not lucky.
This has always been my take on the post - it is not meant to offend.

KTQ
Cara
D6970... Show more

Teach

5 days ago

6,976 Days Quit

5 days ago

It's not you they're angry with.

It's a brand new brain chemistry - We all get a little crazy from time to time. Sometimes it'll be your turn (I've certainly had my turn a few times).

Don't tempt the habit. If you chip away at that wall between you and your next cigarette, you will eventually smoke. Keep a strong mental barrier between you and smoking.

At all times, value your quit. Know your exact quit time. At all times, know the number of hours and minutes since you quit. Remember the work...
It's not you they're angry with.

It's a brand new brain chemistry - We all get a little crazy from time to time. Sometimes it'll be your turn (I've certainly had my turn a few times).

Don't tempt the habit. If you chip away at that wall between you and your next cigarette, you will eventually smoke. Keep a strong mental barrier between you and smoking.

At all times, value your quit. Know your exact quit time. At all times, know the number of hours and minutes since you quit. Remember the work you've already put in. A single puff, and it's all wasted effort.

How important is it not to smoke? If you used to smoke a pack a day, it would take you 500 days (1 year 4 months) to smoke 10,000 cigarettes. Let's say you avoid the first 9,999 cigarettes, and smoke the 10,000th. At 99.99% smoke free, you are 90% likely to completely relapse - an eventual return to former levels of smoking. 99.999% smoke free? 90% likelihood of complete relapse. 99.9999??? Same deal. Anything less than complete abstinence from smoking brings an automatic 90% chance of failure. That 10% that manages to go the rest of their lives without another cigarette?

Success takes an absolute and immutable dedication to being 100% smoke free. You might not feel that you have this on day 1. Maybe you don't, I don't know. It is something you have to build and nurture. It is something that you can strengthen over time. Just not smoking isn't enough. You have to change the way you think about cigarettes.

It takes a great amount of strength and will to make it in the beginning, and a great deal of patience and endurance to continue to never smoke in the long run. At the heart of both is resolve. Whatever it takes to keep your resolve alive, do it.

No one in the history of the planet has ever accidentally smoked. You can beat this thing, and you don't need a speck of luck. Knowledge, honesty, wisdom, inner strength, conviction, and dedication; These are the things that will see you through the other side to a smoke free life.

Dr. Avery d298, and rock solid in my quit.
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It's not you they're angry with.

It's a brand new brain chemistry - We all get a little crazy from time to time. Sometimes it'll be your turn (I've certainly had my turn a few times).

Don't tempt the habit. If you chip away at that wall between you and your next cigarette, you will eventually smoke. Keep a strong mental barrier between you and smoking.

At all times, value your quit. Know your exact quit time. At all times, know the number of hours and minutes since you quit. Remember the work you've already put in. A single puff, and it's all wasted effort.

How important is it not to smoke? If you used to smoke a pack a day, it would take you 500 days (1 year 4 months) to smoke 10,000 cigarettes. Let's say you avoid the first 9,999 cigarettes, and smoke the 10,000th. At 99.99% smoke free, you are 90% likely to completely relapse - an eventual return to former levels of smoking. 99.999% smoke free? 90% likelihood of complete relapse. 99.9999??? Same deal. Anything less than complete abstinence from smoking brings an automatic 90% chance of failure. That 10% that manages to go the rest of their lives without another cigarette?

Success takes an absolute and immutable dedication to being 100% smoke free. You might not feel that you have this on day 1. Maybe you don't, I don't know. It is something you have to build and nurture. It is something that you can strengthen over time. Just not smoking isn't enough. You have to change the way you think about cigarettes.

It takes a great amount of strength and will to make it in the beginning, and a great deal of patience and endurance to continue to never smoke in the long run. At the heart of both is resolve. Whatever it takes to keep your resolve alive, do it.

No one in the history of the planet has ever accidentally smoked. You can beat this thing, and you don't need a speck of luck. Knowledge, honesty, wisdom, inner strength, conviction, and dedication; These are the things that will see you through the other side to a smoke free life.

Dr. Avery d298, and rock solid in my quit.